The backbone is a series of vertebrae, separated by disks, that encloses and protects the spinal cord, and runs down the middle of the back; it could also be termed as a fundamental support structure. A backpack is described as, a knapsack, mounted on a frame, worn on a person’s back for the purpose of carrying things; that is, a baggage to be carried around.
In relating the above statements to a relationship, it would be understood that, the essence of a relationship is to have someone to relieve you off the baggage you may be carrying around, all by yourself. But, if you are in a relationship, and you feel more like a baggage, than a life support, then there’s a huge problem to look into, with immediate consideration. For a man, most of his baggage are his life goals, and for this reason, a man looks to find, the woman he can share some of his ideas with; someone who would be of great support to his dreams and aspirations, like a backbone. Likewise, most of a woman’s baggage are emotionally tied, like; when and how will she do this or that? how can she find strength in her desires and goals? how can she cope with all she has accomplished, or hopes to accomplish, and not feel alone? and so, she hopes to find someone who can make her baggage feel lighter, and help her in achieving most of all she desires. Everyone has a baggage they need to get off their backs somehow, no one will be willing to help you out of your baggage if you are occupying most of the baggage they already carry. There’s no need for a relationship that feels worse that the stress you’ve had to go through being by yourself, it’s a complete waste of time and energy, and also shows a lack of skill!
The joy of every relationship of ‘partnership’ is, to share with someone who can understand the potentials you have, with that person being there to give you the best support and encouragements, you need all through that journey, like a backbone in your back. For a relationship to be meaningful and be of worth to you and your partner, you must have to be the backbone, and not the backpack. No one hopes to add more to their already heavy baggage, especially, if that baggage is you.