The foundation of a lasting relationship is based on “Trust.” Trust is; when you have full knowledge of all the odds and challenges of what a relationship may have, but you refuse to let those things come between you and your partner, because, you are strong enough, emotionally, and have full confidence in your partner to always try to do right, even if, every human is prone to weakness (not that it’s an excuse for anyone to cheat on you). But, when you stop trusting, and start imagining things in your relationship; those things you fear and nag about all the time, may as well be played in reality someday.
You cannot love a person completely if you keep making a movie of an unhappy ending, in your wild imaginations. Some go to extreme measures to catch the ‘fowl,’ by confiding in other people, to investigate their relationship on their behalf. Now, the problem with these private investigators you hire, is that, they are too good to fail you in your suspicions; they just never get it wrong with you, even if the story may be just a fiction they have carefully played out.
Jealousy in a relationship is healthy, it shows a sense of security over your partner. But, many mistake possession for security; that’s when jealousy becomes unhealthy. The moment you start getting too paranoid over your relationship, and all you do is nag the hell out of your partner’s ears, you are threading on a path of losing them to the horror you have always feared; the other person, and at that point, they just don’t care how you feel anymore!
There are ways to have a healthy jealousy over your partner without sending them into the arms of another; sometimes, you pretend to have moved on, but it still hurts when you see that they are happier with the other person you lost them to; newsflash: you let them slip away!
A mature mind knows not to cause unnecessary scene or unhealthy and unproductive suspicions that are baseless, only to lose the one they love to their possessiveness and insecurity. Stay sane, and learn to trust your own, regardless of what anyone says to you, not everyone is happy with what you have, be careful not to shoot yourself in the leg out of a mere child’s play of jealousy!